1. Make a list of things about your husband you wish were different.

If there are issues you can’t accept, work to resolve them.

Burn the rest of the list.

2. Make a list of things about him you’re thankful for.

Thank God for these things.

Then thank your husband.

When things about him bother you, replace those thoughts with things you’re thankful for.

3. Study your husband.

What foods are his favorites?

What makes him feel loved? (Think love languages.)

What does he like to talk about?

What activities have you enjoyed doing together in the past?

What activities would he enjoy doing by himself or with his friends?

What has he wanted to do for a long time but hasn’t been able to do?

4. Build Bridges

Use the things you’ve learned about him to find ways to show love for him.

Do something that he would enjoy even if it doesn’t interest you.

Make good memories together. Laugh and have fun.

Make home a pleasant place for him.

Find areas of commonality that you can agree on and talk about.

Bring him into decisions about the kids.

Agree on family rules.

Look for ways to support him.

Show him who God is by reflecting God’s image.

Share the gospel in a positive way as he gives you opportunity.

Be an attractive Christian.